Feng Shui for Middle Age

Like many of us, you may be facing decisions regarding aging parents who are widowed and/or too frail or ill to live independently or without some degree of support from family or outside services. If you have taken in an aging parent for an indefinite period or during a time of convalescence, applying the techniques of Feng Shui (FS) can make all the difference in the quality of adjustment and well-being for all involved.

FS is about comfort, flow and quality of life. There is no person more likely to benefit from a space of FS than someone who may be more or less confined that space. To promote health, create a clear space on any surface central to a room, such as beds, chests and coffee tables. Eliminate all clutter and include circular patterns such as mats, pads or large coasters. Avoid placing prescription bottles and medical needs directly at the center of the room, as they become a focal point attracting attention to illness rather than wellness. Instead, place one or two treasured figurines or items that reflect health and vibrancy, such as mementos or colorful art pieces. Include fresh flowers in a living area to add brightness and a sense of freshness and life.

If possible, determine your parent’s favorite color and paint the room or decorate using that shade. Making your loved one feel at home and surrounded by what they enjoy will provide them with both comfort and positive expectation. In the East corner, the middle left of the room using the bagua map www.creativecolordesigninc.com, place or hang family photos and active images such as favorite outdoor pastimes like gardening or sports teams. This corner also is ideal for heirlooms your parent may wish to have with them as reminders of family heritage.

Consider replacing blinds with window treatments that allow for increased air flow and sunlight. Natural views accessible from indoors stimulate a hopeful attitude and a desire to be well. As important as what can be seen is what is heard within an environment. Music is an important addition to any space. Provide music your parent likes, from their generation and favorite musicians. Numerous online sources offer free continuous streaming audio in dozens of genres suitable to any taste.

Visits from extended family, particularly peers and the younger relatives enliven a senior’s interests and memories, as well as their sense of connection. Pets or visits from animals such as dogs are very good for the spirit and health of those who are alone or homebound.

Welcome your parent to share in meal preparation or, if that isn’t possible, offer to prepare one of their favorite dishes or desserts. The Northwest corner, or the right front corner of the bagua is a wonderful place for chimes or religious images as it represents the spiritual. And, perhaps most importantly, look to balance the output of caring for an aging parent with nurturing activities and de-stressing escapes for you, your children and spouse. Renewing your energy and restoring your own spirit will provide positive energy and flow to all who share your household and your world.